Why Apologize for the Truth?

NEW YORK (AP) — John Mayer is apologizing for his mouth.

The Grammy-winner took to his Twitter page to make amends for his latest inflammatory comments — this time, in the March edition of Playboy.

In it, he calls former girlfriend Jessica Simpson ”sexual napalm” and says Jennifer Aniston is a technophobe who wishes she could go back to her career prime in 1998. He also uses the N-word.

On Twitter Wednesday afternoon, he apologized for the racial epithet and said he has to stop ”trying to be so raw in interviews.”

”It started as an attempt to not let the waves of criticism get to me, but it’s gotten out of hand and I’ve created somewhat of a monster,” Mayer tweeted. ”I wanted to be a blues guitar player. And a singer. And a songwriter. Not a shock jock. I don’t have the stomach for it.”

There were plenty who didn’t have the stomach for his remarks in Playboy, in which he talked about Simpson’s sexuality, his problems with Aniston, his love of porn, why he doesn’t date black women and being beloved by the black community.

”Someone asked me the other day, ‘What does it feel like now to have a hood pass?’ And by the way, it’s sort of a contradiction in terms, because if you really had a hood pass, you could call it a nigger pass,”’ he said, then added: ”But I said, ‘I can’t really have a hood pass. I’ve never walked into a restaurant, asked for a table and been told, ‘We’re full.”’

Mayer said he should have never have used the N-word in any context and will never say it again.

”And it’s such a shame that I did because the point I was trying to make was in the exact opposite spirit of the word itself. It was arrogant of me to think I could intellectualize using it, because I realize that there’s no intellectualizing a word that is so emotionally charged,” he said.

The racial comments were hardly the only explosive comments in the interview. He said he still loved Aniston, but then noting their age difference (she just turned 41), he said: ”I can’t change the fact that I need to be 32.”

He also said she didn’t appreciate new technology: ”The brunt of her success came before TMZ and Twitter. I think she’s still hoping it goes back to 1998. She saw my involvement in technology as courting distraction. And I always said, ‘These are the new rules,”’ he said.

Of Simpson, he talked about her sexual ability, and said: ”That girl, for me, is a drug … That girl is like crack cocaine to me.”

In the interview, he also explained why he didn’t date black women, comparing his genitals to ”a white supremacist.”

Mayer — known for his loose tongue — has made a habit out of outlandish comments. Last month, he gave an interview with Rolling Stone where he talked openly about his love life, including sex with other women — and himself.


4 thoughts on “Why Apologize for the Truth?

  1. Personally, I am not mad at ANYTHING he says or how he thinks. Its his entitlement. What I do contend is the fact that he apologized for it. Why say it to begin with? Why call yourself an adult, have full control and range over your upper and lower mandibles and stll say things you don’t mean? It’s irritating!

    Mr. Mayer, your apology means shit to me because you are only apologizing b/c in America you can “unsay” things with an eraser sized “apology”. I’d have more respect if he let it be…

    You cannot “unlisten” or “unspeak”. Watch your mouth and say what you mean, otherwise, say it and stand by it!

  2. Playboy interviews are known for bringing out a controversy from typically benign interviewees (John Mayer, Jimmy Carter)
    What stands out for me in the interview, is how Mayer speculates on the whole “douchebag” reputation with an intense curiosity on how it may have evolved. Well, if he hadn’t earned it before, he earned it now. John Mayer, the guy is a damn good guitar player – but appears to be an awful boyfriend and a pr nightmare.

  3. @ atheos, good point! And yea, he definitely has helped give a journalist another day at the office and has secured an economic bailout plan for his PR firm.

    But for me, the question remains – why say it and then apologize? Hell if you think “hood passed niggers, napalm like pussy and the evolution of douchbagism” is your things then stand by it!…lol

  4. I totally agree that he has a right to express his opinions and that he can have whatever preferences that he likes. That’s not the problem. There are three main problems here. First, Mayer made derrogatory statements about specific people and specific situations. Not only were his statements distasteful, but they are defamatory. That is someone’s daughter, sister, significant other, friend, etc. that Mayer is talking about. Second, as adults we understand the difference between fact and fiction and entertainment and real life. Let’s be real, who’s to say that Mayer even believes the things he said. Adults, for the most part, can see through all of the smoke and mirrors. Kids, however, have a more difficult time making these distinctions. So, the question becomes what is the impact of Mayer’s statements on the youth and/or people who for whatever reason held him in high esteem. Third, at the end of the day, people will still support Mayer despite his lack of discretion because he issued an “apology”. So now the question becomes, can people just have an unfettered license to say hurtful and harmful things and then be able to flash a “Get out of jail free card” a.k.a an “apology” and go on about their business without any consequences. If that is the case, I would argue that situations like this are setting a dangerous precedent! Additionally, I really don’t think he should have apologized. The damage is done and he should have chosen his words more carefully if he wasn’t going to be a man and stand by them later. It’s all in the delivery. He could have chosen a different approach to expressing his sentiments. So, what is the moral of the story? Words have power, the impact of which may be incalculable. Our words, whether they are spoken in public or private, are permanently etched in the spiritual realm and the chickens always come home to roost!

Please use the comments to demonstrate your own ignorance, unfamiliarity with empirical data, ability to repeat discredited memes, and lack of respect for scientific knowledge. Also, be sure to create straw men and argue against things I have neither said nor even implied. Any irrelevancies you can mention will also be appreciated. Lastly, kindly forgo all civility in your discourse . . . you are, after all, anonymous :)

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