Marriage is overrated

Yes my friends. The Asian culture has befuddled our thinking. Life on earth is comparatively short, so our Asian oldsters spook you into believing that you don’t want to be alone spending the rest of your years. Society has drummed into our heads that we “must” get married. Whack! You can live alone, and not be lonely. You can have a partner, and not be married. I know many couples who marry for the sake of marrying, and now are scrambling to pepper the cracks in the relationship that imperils their sacrament. I ALMOST feel sorry for them.

As humans age, they get tensed up and frantically look for partners to spend their lives with, simply because they’re petrified to be alone. These are the same people who spend their whole lives dreaming of a happily ever after. Bollocks! Close-minded thinking won’t get us anywhere. We need to loosen up and don’t get so high-strung. And by loosening up I mean, is to appreciate LIFE, to stop and smell the roses, which most of us fail to do. We don’t even bother trying.

Bottom line is, do what is right for you and do not live in fear of what might happen in the future. These days, people seem to have blanked out on marrying the RIGHT person for the RIGHT reasons. It’s dispiriting.

I’m not against marriage, but I think it’s overly hyped. A few people have questioned my beliefs, as to what will happen if I actually do find THE one? Well, I’ll cross that bridge when I come to it. Unlike many of us, I don’t go looking for THAT bridge. I’ll be gallivanting around, experiencing life to its fullest. Try it for a change, it’s liberating. 😛

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5 thoughts on “Marriage is overrated

  1. Marriage may be overrated on a superficial level of this internal need “to be married just for the sake of being married”. However, there are some great benefits in making a life long contractual pledge to each other besides just being “live in partners”.

    The Benefits of Marriage:

    1.Discount or family rates for auto, health and homeowers insurance.

    2.The ability to receive Medicare, Social Securtiy, disability and veteran’s benefits for spouse.

    3.Visitation rights and can make medical decisions, unless otherwise specified in a living will

    4.tax benefits, such as being able to give tax free gifts to a spouse and to file joint tax returns.

    5.According to the on-line New York Times, “In terms of money, research found that married couples were generally more financially well off than couples who simply lived together, because they were much more likely to pool money and invest in the future than were couples who merely cohabitated”. http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?sec=health&res=990CE7D71530F933A25757C0A963958260.

    6. Exemption from Property Tax on Partner’s Death.

    7. Medical Decisions on Behalf of Partner.

    8. Certain Property Rights.

    9. Reduced Rate Memberships.

  2. Umm…those are reasons that are not congruent to a lasting relationship. Marriage is overrated but it’s definitely not a contractual pledge.

    Your aforementioned reasons above only concern monetary items and items concerning things that ultimately do not mean anything in terms of what marriage is. Marriage is the simple devotion and sole commitment of one person to the other…what does that have to do with 1-9? If you lived on a island with you and ONE other person, 1-9, rings, ceremonies etc would not matter even though you would still “feel”, and refer to each other as married.

    I can only hope that the reasons that bring two people together aren’t as monetized as 1 thru 9 items listed.

  3. Oh Please, that is the problem with people these days with love, marriage, long lasting commitment,and blah blah. We have this rather naive and romantic concept about these things. Yeah, yeah the “whole soul and coming as one” is all well and good or whatever, but once the “honeymoon” is over what do you have? Well let me tell you, …not a goddamn thing…this is why the divorce rate is so high. We are so focused on how this other person makes us feel and shit, that we do not address the not so ‘lovely ” concepts in a long-term relationship such as money. Does this person who makes you feel all squishy inside have a good credit score or debt free because once your ass gets married you have to share your spouse’s debt. Money is the number one thing that breaks up a marriage and is the least thing addressed prior to marriage.

    Also, lets talk health care! Once again, you are all busy being too wrapped up in each on your “island”, to see if any of you two has adequate health care coverage through her/your job. Last time I checked, our health care system in the U.S. is pretty shitty these days and it costs practically an arm and a leg to come out of pocket for health coverage. It awesome to be all lovely-dovey until the other spouse gets hurt on the job and bam! First goes the two income house hold, if it is really severe, and those hospital bills will start pile up. Workman’s comp, disability and even some insurance companies do not cover all of it.

    All in all, my point is yeah marriage is about the emotional and devotion. But we forget or ignore the none emotional or not romanic things such as money and good health care.These things are the cement thats holds the structure of marriage together.

    Furthermore,

    Addressing the point of 1-9 benefits of marriage. I do not know about you but I would want my “husband” to be aloud to visit me in the hospital and make important decisions on my behalf. Being just my “baby’s daddy” or “my live-in boyfriend” would not fly at the hospital.

    If you were to die unexpected and there was no living will. I guess you would like for your “baby’s mama” and your child to fend for themselves(3and2).

  4. Well hey, I hope your portfolio, 401k package, credit score and stock options are all up to par when you meet your husband. God forbid you have a downspout of luck and happen to fall short of HIS financial standards. Hope “love” fills that gap…lol

  5. I tell you this right now, I will make damn sure my credit score is straight before saying “I do”. B/c I am not going to be so selfish to make my future husband pay for my financial mistakes. Yeah, thats a great way to tell my “future” husband how much I love him.

Please use the comments to demonstrate your own ignorance, unfamiliarity with empirical data, ability to repeat discredited memes, and lack of respect for scientific knowledge. Also, be sure to create straw men and argue against things I have neither said nor even implied. Any irrelevancies you can mention will also be appreciated. Lastly, kindly forgo all civility in your discourse . . . you are, after all, anonymous :)

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